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Blessed And Real Friendship

Blessed And Real Friendship

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. (Romans 17:17)
Practically, in all issues of life, it must be said that the Word of God, His instructions, precepts and admonitions represents God’s supremacy and absoluteness of authority. As a matter of fact, it has finality and audacity of authority.
It thus means that, no matter what the issues, difficulties, challenges or problems may be, God’s Word, connoting His demands, charges, and principles represents the final or concluding authority to such issues.
The Word says:
Forever, O Lord, Your word is settled in heaven. ( Psalm 119:89)
Every word of God is ]pure; He is a shield to those who put their trust in Him. (Proverbs 30:5)
Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will by no means pass away. (Matthew 24:35)
All these refers to the awesome reality that God Word will not return back to Him void. What the Word says is what it means. That means, whatever God says in His Word Is what He means.
Import Of Careful Consideration
Please, hearken to this prayerfully, carefully, and wisely what we have on board for our discussion for today. It is very simply Scripture, or may look or seem ordinary, but seriously it is full of God’s blessings and revelations.
Let’s consider it carefully and penetratingly as see, what we can learn from it.
It says: A friend loves at all time, and a brother is born for adversity.
Look at that properly and hear what it says! It is a blessed and real friendship. It is approved and ordained by God Himself, and its awesome, beautiful, full of glory, goodness and mercy.
Truly, I’m happy to announce to you that God has cornered you and I. And that is He did that, being the CREATOR, of the heaven and the earth, and also through the person of His Son, Jesus Christ of Nazareth that He gave for the salvation of humanity. (John 3;16)
This our starting verse of Scripture is a product of what God did through His love for humanity, and through the continual, or enduring friendship that He allows through His Spirit, and through the goodness and mercies that He gives and administers.
(Psalm 23)
What Should Happen In Reality?
Realistically, or in the true sense of things, a friend is supposed to
love at all times. That is what God’s Word says. In other words, a real friend, come sunshine, or rain, he or she is supposed to keep that love relationship going.
He has been put their to keep that mutual, or cordial affection, or real friendship ongoing. It means, no matter what is happening, a real friend will do all he can to compliment the person that he is into friendship relationship with.
But it won’t just happen, as it must be properly put in place, built, oiled or fueled, and maintained through the necessary ingredients; and in the case, God’s Word.
As aforementioned, for effectual friendship it must be based, rooted and settled on God’s Word. In fact it takes two to tangle.
The Bible says:
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.
(Ecclesiastes 4:9,10)
Please. appreciate that in the course of friendship, it is right, proper and acceptable to keep good company, if not such a friendship won’t fly, even though it is meant to deliver at all times.
Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” ( Psalm 1:1-3; 1 Cor 15:33 )
“Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel” Proverbs 27:9
Real friendship is also, indirectly or directly partnership with one another. It is a union where you compliment one another. You need others inputs in your life, be personal, family, partnership, or corporate. You can’t do everything by yourself.
You must be helped or graced by God. But primarily you must look to God through Christ Jesus, and through the agency of His Word. It is because, all you helps has been approved to come from Him.
However, He will also give you divine helpers, and friendship that will contribute into your life, be it spiritually, physically, financially, materially, or socially, that you may get to the promised lands that God has prepared for you. So, see yourself as divinely helped, or well helped through the grace of God!
Hear What God’s Word Says:
“I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine for you all making my prayer with joy, because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now.”
In considering this topic of friendship, the love of God from a heart of love can’t be put aside. A friendship in that style, must have the love of God has it’s root system.
It is a love that looks at others interests, and hence, what it can do to help. In that sense it helps to lift burdens from his friends that both can get into the greater and bigger blessings of God.
It further says: Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord.” (Romans 12:10-11)
‘Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.’ (Philippians 2:4)
“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.’ (Galatians 6:2)
Gift Of Inspiring Love
It is a love that loves his friends at all times, and thus stirs up, or get you positively provoked into much good works. It is a friendship that is meant to sharpen you, fine tune, and that pushes you further into those great and mighty blessings that God has for you. It is a friends that loves at all times.
And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. (Hebrew 10:24-25)
As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace. (1 Peter 4;10)
Look at this! It says: Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)
Necessary Inputs For It To Deliver
For true or real friendship to happen, such a relationship must rest and be built up, on solid foundation, and in real fact, be nurtured and fueled accordingly with the right ingredients. In addition to that it must continue through humility, relevant and vital inputs, compliment; efforts, giving and receiving that is based on God’s Word.
In this respect, we are dealing, with a friendship or friendships that receives their capacities and divine abilities from God’s instructions. As earlier noted, It has to do, with enduring relationship that is pleasing to God, and thus has profiting for both persons that subscribes to it.
Friendship With Jesus Christ
Interestingly, the tenor of the truth of God’s Word, and that is
through the new creation realities has brought you and I, into friendship with Jesus Christ.
He says: I call you no longer servants but friends for a servant knows not what His masters does.(John 15:5) It means because of what Jesus Christ did for us, through the finished work of redemption, we’ve become the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus.
And thus we are now friends of God, and no longer servants. God through Christ Jesus reveals His mind and thoughts to us through His Word and through the Holy Spirit.
We thus can approach God boldly and ask the LORD, as we come to the throne of mercy to obtain grace in the time of need. It is a friendship of compliments. God is a spirit, yet he must have those that would represent Him on earth to bring others through reconciliation into the Kingdom of God. That is where you and I come into it to the glory of the KING of kings and the LORD of Lords!
Who Really Is A Friend?
A friend may be described as a partner, a companion, a colleague, a sponsor, or a promoter of one thing or the other. He may be termed as a supporter, a helper, or a fan. In all these, there is this inherent affection, a bond, or a passion, or an affinity for one another.
What makes that of what the Scriptures says interesting, comforting, soothing and uplifting and inspiring is that such a friends loves at all times. That means, it has inbuilt in it enduring, perpetual, and unfailing love, based on the integrity and the audacity of God’s Word
Where Applicable
It as applicable at home, in the work Place, etc. ! As a child of God, you are not only a member of you family, you should also be full of love, a friend and not an enemy in disguise. You must not be into unruly behaviors, cursing, anger intimidation, foul languages or abusive words, if not it will affect the blessings of God that are supposed to flow towards you. i
So also, as some that is employed in a business or an organization you are not only an employed; but also a friend. You must consider and see yourself in that manner. It signifies. don’t get into actions, or activities that are not in consonant with your term or condition of contract or employment. Otherwise, you’ve become, an enemy in disguise; and yet you’ve been paid for that.
For instance, don’t get into fraudulent activities against your employer. You’ve been given a platform to showcase you gifts, what you learned from school, and your intelligent, and intellectual prowess. Hence, your presence there is not simply to earn salaries or wages; but to reveal your true integrity, and passion for your responsibilities.
It is also to ensure that the company, or organization that you work for increase its reputation, profiting and for it to go into expansion with great results to show for it.
So, don’t just an employee; but a real friend, partner of that institution, business, organization that employs you. It will be of immense benefit to you in the long run. It guarantees favours from God, and respect and favours from men. But truly, you determine that through you dispositions and actions.
In Your City
Your responsibility there is to reveal who you are. You must do all that you do there in to reflect that really you’ not only reside therein; but you are a real friend. You start with your family in house, particularly, with your spouse, and children if you are married, and you are in that category, and then be a good neighbor.
God desire is that you always have the interests of others at heart and don’t be a trouble maker in your neighborhood or community. Don’t be noisome, or don’t get into noise pollution, or air pollution. Avoid the ways of the ungodly, that of the sinners, and also don’t sit in the seat of the scornful.
Avoid Things That God’s Counsel Disapproves
So also, don’t get into drugs abuse, otherwise you may have problems with the law enforcement agency. If that happens, it means you have ceased to be a friend of your city, but an enemy, and you may not even recognize it simply due to ignorance and carelessness.
It pays to be a real friend that you may be a solution, or answer to the needs of others, and not part of the difficulties, or problems. May God gives you understanding. Be a real freind, and a real helper to your country or to the nation where you belong. ( Psalm 1:1-3; 1 Cor 15:33 )
National Aspect
In fact, when you look at the aspect of the national aspect. If you are a citizen of your country, through birth or through naturalization, you are not only a citizen, or should not be only a citizen, but a friend of your nation.
That is why the rule of law has been put in place. In other words, directly, or indirectly you are to represent your constituency, and also, your state, and then your nation according to the terms and provisions of its rule of law. You don’t have to be a politician to do that. So also you don’t need to be the person in charge of an organization to get into that.
The Word says, A fiend loves at all times. That means through your activities, dispositions. let it be known about or spoken about you, that you truly love you nation, or country. And if there are any sues that you disagree with, then take that to your representations at the National Assembly, and do it rightly, properly that they may look at it.
Being orderly is what it means. In other words, if you really and truly love you nation, and you love it at all times, you’ll do things that are in consonant with the rule of law.
Personal Application With Regards To A Spouse
There is a testimony of Scripture that you love God, and love others as you love yourself. This our principal Scripture is a verse that God has used to stir you and I up, and, in fact more into the goodness and mercies of God!
An English sayings says: ‘Old friends are better than new ones.’ That, I found to be true to a large extent. What happened is that in some cases, old friends that you really spent time together in years pasts, sometimes may be like a fraternity not evil though.
You may not even have known the LORD then, and perhaps a couple of you have come to know the LORD. But seriously, in a way, you yet have real and cordial respect for one another.
You can yet remember those good things that you did together, perhaps in school or at work, or within your community. There is this mysterious affinity or affection that cements it together, that you still can get together to cover each ones weakness.
In fact true friendship means that you complement one another; and that is where one of you is strong and the other is wick, you cover the nakedness or the weakness of the other. It may be spiritual, financial, physical, material social etc. I have seen that happen in my personal life in years past, in marriage, in business, and also in recent times.
The truth of the matter is that is how God has ordered and ordained it. We are to help one another and cover for others nakedness or weakness. It makes both parties to do really greatly and wonderfully.
That is what God is demanding for us in the church. You love for others to love. You get blessed through Christ Jesus, that other may be blessed through the blessings upon you; be it spiritual physical, financial material, social.
Get into the Acts of Given It says: It is more blessed to give than to receive. (Acts 20:35)
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.(Galatians 6:9)
Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.( Luke 6:38)
Be dedicated to being a help to someone in need! Be a channel of blessing to someone. What you give has not departed from you. It is planted and would come back to you in extensive, or multiplied harvest.
You will certainly, and surely reap it if you don’t give up on your value system; and that is on the Word of God. The hope or the expectations of hew righteous shall not be disappointed; because it is based and rooted on God’s Word.
You will love this! Listen to the voice of God’s Word through what the Psalmist says:
He who continually goes [a]forth weeping,Bearing [b]seed for sowing, Shall doubtless come again [c]with rejoicing,
bringing his sheaves with him.( Psalm 126:6)
Implication
It means that God has bountiful harvest in store for you as you engage in the art of giving. God, will multiply your seeds planted according to His righteousness.
It reveals that If you are a real friend, then show yourself friendly otherwise indirectly that person has become or is an enemy in disguise. Real friend, will go any length as God allows him to help his friends.
A true friend loves, at all times. It may be referred to as enduring friendship, or continuing friendship. In fact it may be termed as perpetual friendship with substance that matters, and it has inherent in great profiting.
Personal Application With Regards To A Spouse
There is a testimony of Scripture that you love God, and love others as you love yourself. This our commencement verse of Scripture is a verse that God has used to stir you and I, more into the goodness and mercies of God!
An English saying says: Old friends are better than new ones. That, I found to be true to some extent. What happened is that in some cases, old friends that you really spent time together in years pasts, sometimes may be like a fraternity not evil though.
You may not even have known the LORD then, and perhaps a couple of you have come to know the LORD. But seriously, in a way you yet have real and cordial respect for one another. There is a mysterious affinity or affection that cements it together that you still can gets together to cover each ones weakness.
In fact, real friendship means that you complement one another; and that is where one of you is strong and the other is wick, you cover the nakedness or the weakness of the other. It may be spiritual, financial, physical, material social etc. I have seen that happen in my personal life in years past, in marriage, in business, and also in recent times.
The truth of the matter is that is how God has ordered and ordained it. We are to help one another and cover for others nakedness or weakness. It makes both parties to do really greatly and wonderfully.
That is what God is demanding for us in the church. You love for others to love. You get blessed through Christ Jesus, that other may be blessed through the blessings upon you; be it spiritual physical, financial material, social.
Also, you become educated for others to become educated. God’s standard is that a friend, and that is a real friend has been put in place their to love at all times.
It is a great responsibility, and we can’t but have the grace of God upon us to ensure we be in consonant with what God’s Word says. It calls for purity of heart that comes from total consecration to God. It works greatly and beautifully.
In conclusion it also says, a brother born for adversity. This should be looked at from Biblical aspect of perception. And that is a brother or sister that is born of God, should stand in the gap for you in prayers, and be of help as the LORD leads, guides and directs him or her.
Where necessary spiritual counsel or prayers may be given, in fact sometimes financial or material helps. But in all it must real friendship that God himself can count on. It is should be enduring or durable, genuine, trustworthy, full of love, and soaked with grace of God.
As a child of the Most High God it is yours already. You are blessed and highly favoured. God bless you. JESUS CHRIST IS LORD! Hallelujah!
By: Albright Abiodun OLAJIDE
a.k.a Stephen Abiodun WILLI

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